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How to Know if You Have a Crush on a Guy?

Love or Crush


Whether you are ten or eighty years old and whether you are in a committed relationship or not, you are never safe from a healthy crush. Having a crush on somebody is just another way of saying that you like somebody a little more than the average Joe. Most people will admit to having crushes on a famous athlete or a gorgeous celebrity, but sometimes we start to have crushes on people who are around us every day. Aside from writing your name and your crush's name encircled in a big heart over and over again, what are some ways to know that you like a guy or have a crush on him? , How to tell if you like a guy or have a crush on him.

  1. Take notice of how you and your body respond next time you see him. If you feel nervous or feel your heart skip a beat or start to sweat, you possibly like him.
  2. Count how many times you think about him a day. If you think about him more than several times, you probably like him
  3. Notice what you think about when you think of the guy. If thinking of him makes you nervous, excited or happy, you probably have a crush on him.
  4. You look forward to spend more time with him
  5. When you're getting dressed in the morining before school, collage or work you always think "Will _____ like this?" Or something similar
  6. are you feel jealous when he's around other girls and/or flirts with them.
  7. Notice whenever you try to go to the same exact place where he is.
  8. Notice whenever you try to make a guy jealous. This may be a sign you like him.
  9. if you think of him while you read this page and you talk to your friends about him a lot.
  10. Notice whenever you try to get his attention,if you try to make friends with his friends, or keep finding reasons to get close to him.
  11. Notice whenever you try to get information about him.
  12. Notice if you feel jealous or get mad at him for any little thing he does.
  13. Notice if your friend says you blush whenever he's around or his name is mentioned.
  14. Notice if your friends tell you that you were staring at him, and you don't even realize it.
  15. If you talk about him in one of your conversations to anybody who will listen, he is stuck in your mind, and you probably like him.

How to go back to your ex boyfriend

 

Getting your ex back will not be easy, there are certain things that you can do to increase your chances. Here are some of them: 
    Firstly, ask yourself why you want the two of you back together. Is there still any love left? Very carefully consider why you want to make another effort. 
    It'll help to take a self-inventory. What did you do wrong in round one? Examine your ex's mistakes while you are digging through your own. Will he or she continue messing up in the same ways? 
    You'll need to demonstrate that the problems you experienced the first time around are not going happen again. Show how you have changed. Tell your ex once that you have changed, and then let your actions do the talking for you. 
    Invite your ex on an outing in which he will be able to participate in an activity you enjoyed together earlier. This will allow him to see what he is missing out on by not being with you and will remind him how good your relationship used to be. 
    Start over afresh. Let the past be the past. But if you can't forgive or your ex does not want to forgive, then there is no point in going back. 
    For any changes that are made when attempting to reunite your ex, be sure these continue into your new relationship. Failure to do so will only result in the relationship ending for a second time and thus will cause further heartache for yourself and your partner.

How to avoid your breakup

You start to feel less connection and interest from your lover every day, as he seem to stay away from you or stop taking care of you. Think about when you first met each other. Then try recalling the reasons why you both got together,

As relationships progress, so does life. Your finances could increase or decrease, family members can affect your lives for better or for worse, and so on. Life situations influence the dynamics between a couple, and they must try to prepare themselves to deal with it.

 

Even though some breakups can happen by surprise, it can hurt just as much or more when you are stuck in a relationship where there is no love. If your relationship is in trouble and you fear the inevitable, here are some suggestions that may help you to save it

 

Take time to tell your partner why you love him.

 

 Not once, but often. This can be something as small as a compliment on how they look. Your partner needs to know you appreciate them. Don't just assume they know. Everyone likes to be reminded they are loved.

 

Are your lines of communication open?

A healthy relationship needs open avenues of communication. Arguments, sarcasm and snide comments are not communication and you need to learn to communicate with respect. Considering that you would not speak to friends or colleagues in that manner, why would you speak that way to a loved one?

 

Don't Lie!

 

Everyone lies occasionally. It's in our nature. This isn't an excuse to lie to your partner. Every time you are caught in a lie, a little more trust is taken away. A healthy relationship requires trust. Never ever lie about things important to the relationship. You're better off facing the music if you've done something wrong then being caught in a lie.

 

Are you hearing?

Are your partner's interests something that you pay attention to? Do you really listen to what your partner is saying and give him/her equal time to explain his/her side? Sometimes we turn a deaf ear to all except what we view to be right. Talk in a normal tone and really listen to the other side of the story next time there is a conflict. You are not always the only one who is right, and you could be missing something that is important if you would just listen.

 

Never try to solve a problem when you are angry.

 

Take time to cool down. I know this can seem impossible at times but think about it. Is anything ever really solved when you are yelling at each other?

 

 

 

Are you a good listener?

Do you have any idea what your partner's interests are? Do you hear their opinion when you argue and let them have a fair chance to explain their point of view? There are times when we just have to be right and we won't listen to anything someone else says. When a problem presents itself, try to be calm and open-minded to your partner's opinions and listen to them. Otherwise, you may miss hearing something important and, yes, sometimes you are wrong.

 

Resist making accusations.

 

Approach your partner calmly, without being defensive. Tell him/her the problem. Don't be accusing or they will become defensive and yes, you will end up in an argument. If you find it's easier to write it in a letter, then do so. Leave while they read it so you aren't hovering over them, waiting for their reaction. Let them process what you have said. Again, do not be accusing. Tell them you want to make your relationship better. Have suggestions for BOTH of you, not just them. Be sure you know the core problem and aren't just mentioning a symptom.

 

Be supportive and look for ways to give your partner the things they need the most.

 

Even if they don't tell you what they need, you can figure it out if you pay attention. Some people have a hard time telling you what they need but there are clues. If you're not sure, ask.

 

Don't listen to anything that is not true.

Do you continuously imagine false situations about what your mate does or thinks? That little voice in your head tells you things like your mate has lost the desire for you since they didn't stop what they were doing at a time when you needed attention. Ignore those mistaken beliefs because they are distorting reality for you.

 



Be patience

No matter how bad is the situation, you need to be patience to act upon it. A person with high temper creates more troubles during arguments. Perhaps, you must always stay calm and listen to the opinions of the other side. If you are arguing with your partner, never ever raise up your voice when dealing with this circumstances. This can prevent conflict from happen thus easy to handle. If you have the patience, you will always stay calm in handle any bad conditions. The more patience you have, the lesser breakup will occur during an argument.

Try to stop being demanding.

Not being able to do things without your significant other nearby is unhealthy for your relationship. Dependency has led to a number of relationship failures. You need to understand that it is normal and necessary for you and your mate to take some time apart to do little things, like shopping. If you discover that you want to spend all of your time with your mate, take this as a sign that you should get a hobby that you can do by yourself.

Consider your future

Plan your future with your partner. Consider the future of this relationship. If a relationship without future planning, this relationship will no be last longer. You need to plan out a future plan between you and your partner. In fact, this show you are serious about this relationship and looking forward to extend the growth of it. People like to be love and protected, only love is not good enough to retain the relationship. You have to work out a future plan hence prove that you are more committed.

 

 

 

10 Signs that you are going to be dumped

you are going to be dumped

 

Getting dumped is a terrible feeling as you lose someone you love. However the worst part is dealing with rejection. Once you get dumped you wonder whether any good will ever happen to you again. Later you would realize how much you have learned from your experience and you are definitely strong enough to face any difficult situation in future.

Even if teens sense a break-up they tend to deny it and somehow convince themselves that are wrong; this is the reason why getting dumped comes as such a shock. Following are some important signs that you are about to get dumped:

  1. Your Gut Told You - Guts don't talk, you say? Well you're certainly suspicious of something; else you wouldn't be reading this article. Sometimes gut feelings are right.
  2. Your guy appears to be busy with his work all the time. He has no time to spare for you. Remember that no matter how busy a guy is he would definitely take out some time for you if he is in love with you.
  3. He makes himself seem so engrossed in his own work that he doesn't even have the time to call you up. Only you have to do the calling yourself all the time. He stops calling you up. You are no longer on his priority list. Most of the time he wont receive your call, it's just the answering machine mostly. These signs are not good at all.
  4. His family, his friends suddenly become not so friendly. They probably know what the truth is.
  5. Awkward Phone Conversations - This is usually a dead give-away. If you're used to prolonged, laughter-filled phone calls that could go on for hours and then suddenly your phone calls are barely lasting 5 minutes, maybe they're trying to avoid you. Don't base this off one phone call. You'll notice it in a series of phone calls. If they aren't talkative and barely add anything to the conversation, they might be losing interest in you.
  6. Connection is weakening and love is gone: You guys no longer connect anymore. All his affection for you has suddenly disappeared into the thin air. No hugging, no holding hands.
  7. You two don't get along well anymore. There is a lot of quarrelling going on. He makes a big fuss out of small issues. He finds fault with everything you do.
  8. Vague Plans - If they're always trying to get out of dates or constantly changing them, this could be a sign that you're becoming less important. If you suggest a future trip or vacation and they only seem vaguely interested, they don't even plan on being with you that long.
  9. Stupid Arguments - Another give-away. Are they getting mad at you for no logical reason? Taking all their stress out on you? Arguing over ridiculously silly, small things? This isn't always a sign of a break-up. If you're always giving in, being that "nice guy/girl", and agreeing with them all the time, they may be arguing simply to see if you'll stick up for yourself. Sad, but true.
  10. The Dreaded "Excuses" - This may be obvious, but if they start the whole "we should take a break", "maybe we should be open to other people" and so on, don't waste your time. It's their way of ending it like a coward. Chances are you won't be hearing from them again.

 

The bottom line is; if you're not happy and you don't see a long term future with this person, save yourself time and get a head start on the healing process.

Some of you may disagree and say "If I keep working at this relationship it WILL succeed!" Unfortunately, it takes two people to make a relationship work. It isn't like your goal is going to be learning to ride a bike, winning a competition or running a successful business - these goals you have an element of control over.

Trying to make it "work" is setting a goal to change what goes on in someone else's head; which is something you'll always fail to achieve. If you're unhappy with how your partner is behaving, I strongly suggest you take action and change your situation for yourself. Spending all your energy attempting to make them interested and preventing them from dumping you will just make you feel terrible if or when they actually do.

That's not to say you can't keep them interested, or you can't win them back. You can. But you can only do this by changing yourself to become more attractive emotionally and physically, and not by changing your lover.

Related article: How to get your ex back?



Wanna make Ex-Boyfriend Miss you

Always remember needs a lot of patience and an honest approach from your side.

 

1.) Introspection: The first and foremost thing to do is to look within you and do a bit of introspection. Yes, try to find out your best traits and qualities that were appreciated by your Ex. Do strengthen those lovable traits that would make you more charming and work upon your weaknesses. Try to find out the reasons as why your ex left you! (I know it is very difficult to think what makes ones heart hurt, but for the last time you have to do it).


(2.) Be the most desired person: After the must needed introspection, get ready to be the most desirable and lovable person. For becoming the most eligible person, you have to do nothing but just be yourself. Yes, no need to be someone else, just enhance your personality and work on your looks. Be a magnet and not the iron.


(3.) No Desperation: Yes! Don't be too desperate to meet your Ex or calling him/her again and again to give out the impression of a loser. Nobody likes a loser, so take a chill pill and treat this time as a testing time of your love. At the same time, try to make him/her realize that you still do exist in this world. Go out with common friends and impress them by your charming and affectionate personality. Trust me, the radiations of your true love would automatically be conveyed to him/her.


(4.) The weapon of jealousy is effective but I don't recommend it: he/she may feel jealous after seeing you with someone else and you could be successful in making him/her miss you. However, if you not only want him/her miss you but want to make him/her yours forever, then too much jealousy can be harmful for your relationship.


(5.) You are the best thing ever happened to your Ex: have a firm belief that 'your love' is the best thing that has ever happened to him/her. When you feel that it is the right time to be together with your Ex, then don't be shy in talking to him/her. Have a dignified conversation without any bitterness of the past, adding a pinch of romantic element in it. If you are going to meet him/her, then don't forget, if you are a male to wear the shirt she gave you or take her favourite flowers for her and if you are a female, then wear a dazzling dress of his favourite colour or wearing the necklace or anything that he gifted to you. But do keep in mind that your eyes should speak about the intensity of your love and Body language should be just awesome.


 


Are you in love with a jerk?

in love with a jerk

Here are some tips to help save some of you women out there from a stupid decision or at least help you see where they can improve for the next round.

1. Start thinking of dating as a job interview.
You need to start asking for references! Finding out why his previous relationships didn't work out should give you some clues about what to expect. And if his ex-wife/ex-girlfriend says he's a jerk, you must accept that you cannot change him, and move on!

2. Find out if he has a record.
Check the state and national criminal databases for every potential hubby-to-be. Jettison anyone with domestic violence charges or seatbelt violations. And as long as you're at it, let's check the marriage records. If he's married AND dating, forget him!

3. Start looking in all the new places.
If you ever find a good man, you'll want to keep him under lock and key, so he doesn't wander off. Meanwhile, you're going to have to start looking for men that haven't learned to be jerks yet or men that are newly available through no fault of their own

4. Wait for some time before marriage
Give minimum one or two years time to your relationship if he is a jerk he can't hide his inner self that long, put every man you meet on 'probation' for the first two years you know him. If he doesn't reveal himself as a jerk in that timeframe, then you can start to take him seriously.

10 Spicy Ways to Give delightful Kisses

1.      The good old French Kiss
With open mouths, your tongues gently probe and swirl against the delicate skin inside the mouth.

2.      The Beginner's Kiss
A simple meeting of the lips. Your lips may brush against each other or gently press together. Done with finesse, this can be a fantastic starting point. A variation of this is to "swirl" your lips slowly around your lover's. Relax, let go and allow your lips to roam over and around your lover's mouth -- real bliss with little effort.

3.      The Butterfly Kiss
Using your eyelashes, gently flutter them across your lover's lips, eyelids, cheeks, neck and, when kissing the breasts, on the nipples, too.

  1. The Droplet
    Try experimenting with this in the heat of passion. If you're on top of your lover and kissing passionately, withdraw your lips slightly from his and allow a few droplets of your saliva to drip gently into his mouth.

5.      The Eastern Swirl and Poke
This may be applied to the lips or the body. Relax your lips and allow your tongue to swirl and poke. Alternating these swirling and poking sensations feels wonderful.

6.      The Lover's Pass
When you want to pass something in a sensual way to your lover -- perhaps a piece of chocolate, fruit or ice -- simply hold it gently between your lips and allow your mouth to touch his. Then, using your tongue, push the item into his mouth.

7.      The Lush Lap
More controlled than the Naughty Dog, this kiss still involves a lapping motion with your tongue, but is more contained and controlled, with your lips kept close to your lover's skin. With your lips parted, use a firm, slow lap of the tongue pressed to her (or his) flesh, lips or mouth. Again, this kiss puts you in control and feels incredibly sexy to a lover who likes to yield to your moves.

8.      The Medieval Necklet
Said to be enjoyed by knights of the realm when medieval ladies wore low-cut necklines. Gently circle your lover's neck with a series of kisses, moving from the lower neck just behind the ear, around the breastbone and finishing back behind the other ear. Both men and women enjoy the slow circular pattern being traced along this delicate skin

9.      The Naughty Dog
A passionate, earthy kiss, particularly good for larger erogenous zones such as the neck, breasts, abdomen and inner thigh. Let your mouth open loosely and allow your tongue to relax and "lap" at your lover's body. This feels incredible when applied from the lower part of the breast up to the tip of the nipple -- the tongue just flicking the nipple as the "lapping" motion finishes.

10.  11. The Sliding Kiss
The tongue moves gently back and forth or in and out. A perfect kiss, too, for gently "sliding" erotic food -- such as sauces and creams -- off your lover's body as your foreplay develops.

Some good flirting tips

 

Flirting is a fun! It requires immense talent and creativity. If you want to enjoy it then apply the given below techniques.

1.Fun is always the key factor while flirting. You must be playful, spontaneous and humorous.

2.Looking directly in eyes is a great flirting feature. Gaze continuously for a while then take off your eyes from the person.

3.Frequent compliments are great way of flirting. But, it would be advisable to be honest and sincere while complimenting the person.

 

4.If you want to begin the conversation then a small hi or hello would be adequate.

5.Try to be good listener. It is a great art to listen others. This art will make you more likeable and charming.

6.A permanent smile on face will make you more demanding. People automatically get drawn towards you. Everyone loves a smiling face. 7.It would be advisable to act as a host, instead of guest. This feature will make you approachable and easily accessible.

8.Your attitude must be positive. Enthusiasm is another great factor while flirting.

9.If you want to be a great flirt then always approach first. You must be the first person to say hi.

10.Props are great way to begin a conversation. This would also enhance the conversation. For instance, start your conversation with dogs, jewelry, perfume etc.

 

How to dump a married man

A married man will often tell you lies. You need to remember a married man who has an affair doesn't care about his marriage. You should never marry a married man that had an affair with you. It will end up as a bad situation in the end. Here are five tips on getting over a married man.

 

Think about the things you don't like about him

  1. Does he often lie to you?
  2. Does he seem to always give you excuses?

It is because he is still married. You have to remember that he is only cares about himself and nobody else. A married man does not think of you as the greatest woman in the world. You are just a sex machine for him

Remember he doesn't care about you

He doesn't
care about you. He isn't in a serious romantic relationship with you. You are only something that he will just use. You are only there to fill his sexual needs. You are not special to him. You are not his idea of the wonderful woman that he wants to marry after he files for divorce. A married man who cheats doesn't love his wife enough. He doesn't love you either.

Remember he will treat you like crap eventually

He will treat you like crap just like he did towards his wife. He will make you feel miserable in the relationship. He will just get smarter about cheating on you behind your back. He will come up with better excuses. He will tell you all the things that you want to hear just so that you don't leave him since he enjoys being able to have
sex with several women at once.

Remember he would always cheat on you

Don't believe a married man lies about how you two can be together after he files for divorce.
He will end up cheating on you just like he did to his previous wife. He will do the exact same things to you that he did to his wife. He will be out in the middle of night or day having
sex with another woman while you are stuck home wondering where he is at.

Always remind yourself that you deserve to be a man who doesn't cheat

How to get your ex back


A breakup doesn’t have to be the end of relationship. Sometimes it helps us to realize how much we love the person that we have been with and appreciate the beauty of that relationship. Followings are the few tips to get your ex. back

Important: you still have a chance to get your ex’s heart back. However, you need to realize that not all things will work out as you plan. First you have to find out from your sources that your ex is not so happy with their decision.

1. Use a month long period of no contact to give one another some space. Use this time to figure things out. For you, this one month period can be used to recover from the sting of being dumped and coming up with some sort of plan to get him or her back. For your ex, the time away is good for him or her to realize how much they miss you. If you have to see each other all the time through work or class, you can’t spend time apart and heal.

2. Create more value for yourself - When your ex left you, in many cases it was because he did not value you and your relationship high enough to stay. Therefore, your job is to create more value for yourself. Start improving yourself both physically and mentally. Identify all those that went wrong in your relationship. Try correcting your fault if you had committed any... DO it immediately.

3. Do a make over - in many cases, being in a relationship for more than a year makes you less groomed. If you feel you've been neglecting yourself lately, start going to the gym and buy new and cool clothes. This will make you feel better about yourself and you will resonate that feeling to your surroundings. Your ex will feel that too.

4. After one moth, you need to be around to remind your love of all the good times you've shared and how much they mean to you.

5. Call him, after confirming these two things


A. You had transformed to a better person
B. You really want him back

Treat your talk with your ex like a job interview. You’ve got one shot and one shot only at this. Make it impressionable and make it good.

(NO CRYING, BEGGING, PLEAING, DESPARATE ACTS OF LOVE)

Initial or casual contact. ……..Do NOT starts off by thinking this is an open door to go into an emotional speech about how you've missed them so and your life hasn't been complete without them! Keep it cool, casual, comfortable. Don't bring up the relationship unless they do first. DO take opportunities for light, flirty, "cute" comments and compliments, without overdoing it. The goal here is to make these contacts enjoyable, give the impression you still think of this person as an attractive member of the opposite sex, and keep it light and playful enough to avoid any pressure or discomfort.

You want them to keep coming back for more, right? So make sure they end on an "up" note - and be the one to say you gotta go - nicely, but in a way that implies it was not the last call. People come back for more of what makes them feel good, and feel attractive and desirable without being overwhelmed. People come back for more of what makes them feel good, and feel attractive and desirable without being overwhelmed.

6. meeting again, or less casual conversations, casual dates etc. The point where the ex starts openly questioning things about the breakup. Comments like "I've been thinking a lot lately about us," encourage them to voice what they're thinking and feeling, respond honestly - but without being overwhelming about it. you need to know what the perceived problems were if you're going to build something better, don't get defensive, don't crawl on your knees begging forgiveness, make sure you get across you're going to really listen with an open mind, and offer suggestions and compromises you think might've helped. Blaming yourself at this point won't help, letting them blame themselves won't either. If they change the subject let them change it. Either they have enough to think on for the moment - or they've hit the end of their "comfort zone" before they feel pressured, so in either case, pressing the issue is going to work against you. Be patient, be encouraging that talking about it isn't going to make you defensive or lead to an argument, be encouraging you're interested in starting over again with them - without making it an issue you don't want to talk it out if they're not ready for that.

7. If your ex wants to get back together, before you start celebrating too soon, have a nice good look at yourself and then have a nice good look at them. How does your life compare to theirs now? Does your value and goals line up? Is there even someone else that might fit into their role better?

Who knows you might end up dumping them if you make a haste decision at this point.

8. Now if you are together again, try to avoid the mistakes you done in past and don’t ever mention about the past

Related article - Things you should not do after a breakup

Reasons Why You May Be undecided To Get a Divorce

There are a number of reasons for a person not following through with a divorce, however, if you are going to be moving on with someone else, rarely is staying married a good idea. First, if something happens to you medically your spouse is the one that will have the final say in your medical care. Would you really want someone that you may have left to be the one who decides if the plug gets pulled? In addition to that, your spouse would also be the one, by default, to receive any financial benefits, if there are any, in the event of your death. Also, if you have more money, the longer you stay married, the more likely you are to have to provide support for your spouse if they ask for it. You might say that you were separated and your spouse may say that you just abandoned them and they were trying to put the marriage back together. You may end up paying even though this wasn't the case just because of the amount of time you were married. Sorting through these issues is important. Just know that if you are married and you aren't ready to say goodbye, you don't have to. If you are ready, then don't be afraid to do what you have to do.

Following are the Reasons Why You May Be undecided To Get a Divorce

  • Money - It cost money to get divorced. Sometimes the person who wants the divorce may not have the financial means to see the process through. They may also be in a situation where they know that they will be required to pay something if they get divorced. If they know this and they don't have any money, they may stay married instead of actually getting the divorce even though they are living separately.
  • Taxes & Business - If you have a large amount of money tied up with your spouse, then the prospect of dividing all of it and getting all of your business and tax issues taken care off can sometimes make a person stay in the marriage. Even if they are living separate lives, it is often less painful to just stay married than it is to go through the entire process of splitting everything up.
  • Children - Many parents stay married because it 'looks' better for their children if they are still legally married even though they are living separate lives.
  • Appearances - For high powered couples, the social prospect of being classified as divorced is a stigma that neither may want to have. Instead, they stay together in name only and do whatever they want to do privately. It happens all of the time.
  • Love - The person could be hesitant because they still love their spouse. Even though some people do things to destroy their marriages (like being unfaithful), it doesn't mean that they don't care for and still love their spouse. Screwed up people do screwed up things even if they love the person they are screwing over.
  • Fear - Getting divorced adds a note of finality to everything. It is like putting the final nail in the coffin and covering it over with dirt. This is a hard thing to take for a lot of people, even if they have been doing their own thing for some time. It's like you know that you can't turn back after you do it. This is very scary for a lot of people and some will work hard to avoid it.
  • Laziness - Some people are just too lazy to go file the paperwork to start the process. Instead, they just decide to move on mentally and let the marriage stay the way it is.

Wanna be a good girlfriend

Following are the tips to make you a good girl friend

1. The main thing that the boy likes about his girlfriend is her sincerity. So you should always try to maintain this.

2. Have a positive attitude. If everything you say around him is a criticism or an attack, he will not look forward to seeing you. However, you don't always have to agree with him just because he is your boyfriend. Tactfulness is a better strategy in mature relationships. No matter what, have a sense of humor. Have inside jokes together. Be spontaneous. Be happy.

3. You should avoid carrying discussion at the time when your boyfriend is angry.

4. You should always appreciate your boyfriend for his good deeds.

5. Make sure that if you have any problems that will affect your mood, he is made aware of the reasons for your problems and mood, so that you do not appear to merely be a fickle and cranky creature.

6. Accept the differences you have and learn to love them. Don't try to change each other - love one another for who each of you are.

7. You should not share each and every thing of your relationship with your boyfriend with anybody else.

8. Always dress in the manner that your boyfriend likes. This will really work for you in making your man fall for you.

9. Try to spend the time according to his convenience.

10. Never argue or confront your boyfriend on the issues in which you are opposite to him. Try to change the topic.

11. You should ensure that you can meet all the needs of your boy at the best.

12. Make him happy and please with the romantic words like "I love you" or by saying that he is sweetest in the world for you.

13. Always take time out for fun. This will really give delight and pleasure to both of you.

14. Take an interest in his interests. You don't have to act like you love football, but at least try to understand why he's such a fan. Take an interest in his disinterests, too. He might be disinterested in what you like, so at least try to understand why he is not interested and respect it.

15. Buy him simple, unexpected gifts for no special

Make Yourself Dateable


Letting Go Of Bitterness

Bitterness is a very hard emotion to keep in your heart. It permeates every part of your being and can turn a once happy person into a miserable and hateful individual. Bitterness is really an inability to let go of a situation. Bitterness can take over your life and affect every dating relationship, every business relationship and every familial relationship you may have because rarely can a bitter person stop themselves from displaying their unhappiness with life. If this sounds like you, then you have to give up your bitterness before it consumes you. If it has already wreaked havoc on your life, you need to make the choice to turn things around. Here are a few ways to do that.


Getting Over Bitterness Step 1

The first step to getting over bitterness is to identify what you are bitter about. Sometimes people become so consumed with bitterness that they don't even remember what initially caused the bitterness. Sit down and take some time to think about the reason or reasons that you are currently bitter.


Getting Over Bitterness Step 2

After you work through why you became bitter, you have to come to terms with the reality about the issue. People who are bitter about things typically have a problem forgiving and a problem letting things go. You have to come to the point where you accept that the situation that initially caused you to become bitter may never be resolved in a manner that's satisfactorily for you. Coming to this understanding is the first step in allowing yourself to let it go. There may be a lot of factors in your life that you may feel warrant being bitter. The truth is that there is nothing worth destroying your heart and mind. You have to just stop and make a choice between being happy or being bitter. There is not room in your heart for both. Which one provides you with peace? Which one provides you with comfort? Which one is going to allow you to live your best life? The choice is yours.

Getting Over Bitterness Step 3

After you come to terms with the issue and accept that you have to let it go, your next step is to actually let it go. Whenever you mind starts to dwell on the issue, change your thoughts. Whenever you start feeling overwhelmed and miserable, change your thoughts to something pleasant. Remember, you are in control of your mind. Years of bitterness may have stripped away your ability to think clearly all the time, but, you still have the power. Coming to terms with the reasons for your bitterness can allow you to live a far happier life than you have ever known. Peace, love and joy are waiting for you. If you are in a dating relationship, it's essential that you involve your dating partner in your quest to conquer your bitterness. It's a step by step process, but, investing in you is worth it. Conquer your bitterness to make the most of your life. When you do, you will also make the most of your love.

Wanna be a gud friend of your ex.

If You Are Unable To Be Friends With Your Ex, Be Honest About That With Them
Sometimes we try to force ourselves into a friendship relationship with someone we cared about because we don't want to let the person go. This is a mistake. You have to be honest and true to yourself. If you can't handle seeing your ex in the capacity of a friend, then don't put yourself through it. You are only going to prolong the agony you feel about the relationship ending. Instead, communicate with your ex openly and tell them you are not comfortable being just a friend.

Being friends with someone you used to care about requires a lot of effort and consideration. It isn't an easy thing to do and it isn't something everyone can do. The key to maintaining your own sanity is to be honest with yourself and the person you used to date. If you can't be honest with yourself about your true feelings, you will never be able to maintain a good friendship with your ex. Don't stress yourself out over something that is already over. There are far more important things you could do with your time.
Don't Continue To Have Sex With Your Ex
This is perhaps the biggest breakup no-no. You are trying to be friends, which is already difficult enough. Trying to breakup and have sex is a recipe for craziness. One or both of you is going to start acting possessive of the other. It is not going to be easy for either of you. If one of you wanted the breakup and the other didn't, there is going to be even more of a problem because someone is going to have feelings for the other. Make your breakup simple. If you are not together, don't use sex as a way of staying connected to your ex. That connection has the potential to turn one of you into a stalker. It may have been good when you were together and it may be good if you are just friends, but why give something so special to someone that you aren't going to be with? Let the past melt into the past. Don't have sex with someone you just broke up with.
Don't Bad-Mouth The New Person They Are Dating
Often one of the hardest things to accept with an ex is that they are going to be moving on with someone new. You may feel upset about the fact that they do things with their new love that they did with you. You may even begin to resent and "hate" the person they are seeing for no other reason than that they are dating someone you used to be with. Get over it. Do go around saying bad things about your ex's new love - either to your ex or to your mutual friends. It makes you look jealous, which you probably are, and bitter. That new person isn't the reason you broke up, even if your ex was seeing them before you broke up. The reason you broke up is because you and your ex made choices that led to the breakup. Don't take your anger and frustration out on their new love.
Don't Continually Try To Be Around Them
Let's face it. It is nearly impossible to get over someone if you are continually around them. You can't heal and that leaves you in a state of limbo. You start feeling like you are still together. You aren't. Don't get caught up in trying to maintain the relationship under the guise of being a friend. This will only lead to heartache. If you are really not together, act like it. If you don't, you will never be able to move on.
Don't Talk About New People You Are Dating
When you have really cared about someone for a while, it's so hard to see them dating someone new. It makes you feel like you are missing out on something - even if the relationship was bad. It may also make you feel jealous when your ex does something for their new love that they didn't do for you. Discussing the new people in your lives is not a good idea. It makes for a dishonest friendship because you have to constantly hide your unhappiness with their new relationship. Is that your idea of happiness? Instead of asking questions about their new love that you don't really need to know, you both need to make the decision to not discuss your new loves.
Don't Talk To The Person Everyday
Talking to your ex everyday is like being an alcoholic and going to a bar everyday. It is a crutch and you need to come to terms with the fact that it is a crutch. Cell phones, email, text messages, instant messages and face to face meetings are all methods of communication that should be severely limited with your ex. You need to curtail your communication as much as possible. You are no longer together right? Talking to the person everyday doesn't allow you to get over it and move on.

Don't Talk About Getting Back Together Or What Could Have Been If You Stayed Together
When you talk to someone as a friend after you break up, it's easy to fall back into talking about the reasons why you broke up. You start forgetting the reasons that your relationship was unbearable and start to wonder if there could be a future for the two of you. Things that were big start to seem small and you start feeling like you could be together again. Don't get yourself into conversations where you start thinking about what could have been and what could be between the two of you. It's over. There may have been positive things about your relationship, but there were obviously a lot of negative things. Don't let your new friendship pull you back into a relationship if that's not what is best for the both of you.

Don't Rehash All Of The Negative Issues You Had In Your Relationship
Depending on the circumstances surrounding the breakup, you may or may not have felt closure about the end of the relationship. Becoming friends may provide you with some ability to stay in contact with your ex so that you can talk about the negative issues you had in your relationship. This is a bad idea. If it is over, it is over. Don't bring up those bad feelings again and try to make your ex talk about all of the reasons why they did the negative things they did. It's over. Don't bring up all of the negative things that happened unless you just need closure and don't want to be friends.

Don't Do Double Dates
For some reason, there are those among us that think that they have become such good "friends" with their ex that they can go out on a double date with them. This is generally a very bad idea. Somewhere deep inside of one of you there are bound to be a few lingering feelings of jealousy. Although this may be something that can be controlled, it often can't be. Instead, the person with the negative feelings may make small negative comments or behave in a negative manner. Although you may be friendly, it's just best to keep your dating lives separate. It makes for less drama and far fewer complications.

Don't Place Demands On Your Ex As If You Are Dating
That layer of friendship that you've placed over your relationship may give you the mistaken idea that it's OK to ask for the same type of consideration you had when you were together. This isn't the case. You are not together and trying to demand that your ex treat you as if you are together is a recipe for disaster. Don't expect them to treat you with the same level of consideration. You are not dating this person anymore! If you want to maintain a friendship with them, don't expect them to be anything more than a casual friend to you and don't try to place demands on their time.

Don't Continually Call Your Ex As If You Are Still Together
It can be hard to accept that you are no longer dating if you are still friendly with each other. Constantly calling your ex and expecting them to respond is a sure way to turn your new friendship into a war zone. You aren't together anymore! You need to respect that and act like it. It doesn't make you a bad person if you still have feelings and want to be together, but it does make you a stalker if you don't respect the fact that they don't want to be with you by continually calling them.


Love and relationship tips

  1. Small touches can break many mental and physical barriers. Make small touches with your fingers. Nothing serious, only casual. This will make a world of difference to the relationship.
  2. Before deciding about marriage, do you think about your man as a husband? Or all the time you think about what a great loving person he is? Think of him as a husband and then decide whether you should marry him or not.
  3. If your date wants to meet your family, it is a sign that he/she want to take the relationship forward
  4. Do you accept disrespect sometimes? Do you hope that he did it in momentary anger? This may be dangerous. A man gives away his true character in anger. Be aware of this. Do not be in a relationship that may turn abusive.

Wanna feel sexy again?


10 tips to make you feel sexy again

1. Wear sexy clothing.
2. Take a shower together.
3. Wear silk boxers.
4. Dance seductively with your partner.
5. Do your makeup and hair.
6. Wear lingerie that flatters you.
7. Plan at least one sensual experience a week for your love.
8. Learn more about pleasing your partner.
9. Be the dominant one in your next love-making session.
10. Accept compliments regarding your looks and abilities.

Love or sex, Tips to find out is your date is looking for Love or Sex

Here are some tips and behaviors that portray interest in sex vs. relationship during the first couple of dates or early on in the relationship:

1. When a guy is interested in the details and stories of your sexual history on the first and second dates - he is interested in sex...

2. Your date is commenting obsessively on body parts, yours and other women - he is not into relationship - he is into sex.

3. If /when he tells you details of his own sexual history, too soon into the 'relationship', even under the guise of confiding, he is interested in sex.

4. Consider his ability to maintain eye contact with you. If he is very shy and cannot maintain eye contact, he'll look down at his shoes or at the floor. However, if/when he speaks with you and keeps focusing on your breasts and following your breasts with his eyes, even as you move around - it is a red flag: he is not shy and he is not interested in really getting to know you…

5. If there is spontaneous touching, which you feel is inappropriate – it probably is.

6. Not all relationships start like the examples above. Most dating relationships begin with interests to see and get to know each other. For the women who got hurt in relationships that turned to be sexual encounters only, being strategic and mindful is a way to continue to date… carefully.

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Dating tips to keep you safe on a date



Keeping yourself safe when you are out on a date is really important, especially when you don't know the person you are dating really well yet. Here are 10 ways to keep yourself safe on a date.

Never Leave Your Drink Unattended While On A Date
If you have a drink and you need to go to the bathroom, get a fresh drink when you come back to the dinner table. While you are at the table, always keep your drink on the opposite side of w here your date is sitting. If you want a drink, never let someone other than the bartender or waitress bring it to you. Letting someone bring you a drink may stroke your ego and make you feel special, but, it provides people with a prime opportunity to slip something into your drink. It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman. It doesn't matter if you feel a connection with the person you are dating or not. What matters is keeping yourself safe. It isn't a matter of trust. It is a matter of being smart and being careful.

Don't Carry All Of Your Very Valuable Items On A Date
Don't carry every credit card you own, all of your jewelry and all of your money out on a date. In addition to the fact that you could be robbed, if you drink you stand the chance of being in an inebriated state. If you are in an inebriated state and you have a lot of valuables, you stand a chance of losing everything you own. It's not worth it. Take enough money to ensure that you can get home if something happens and leave the rest at home.

Provide Your Own Transportation To And From Your Date
If you are going on a date, you should agree to meet up with your date instead of letting them pick you up. By meeting up with your date, you maintain control of when you can leave. Let's face it, you don't know the person you are dating really well yet. What if they drink or do drugs while on your date and they are driving? If they go to the bathroom to do it, you may never know that they are high or inebriated. You place yourself at extreme risk when you date someone knew and you don't drive yourself. If you don't have a car, make sure that you take pepper spray along with you. You may be able to save yourself.

Always Tell At Least 3 People Where You Are Going And What Time You Expect To Be Back
You may think that once you are grown you don't have to report in any more. Let me tell you something. Reporting in can save your life. I'm not saying to go call your mother or your father, but, you should make sure that at least three of your friends know where you are going to be going on your date. You should tell at least three friends to make sure that there are multiple people looking out for you and multiple people that are aware that you are out on a date. The information you give to your contact should include the name of the person you are going out with, a number for that person, the places you are going, a contact number for you and when you can be expected home. It would be very sad if something happened to you and no one even suspected that something was wrong for days. You have to put your pride aside and think about your safety.

If You Go On A Date With A Group, Make Sure You Leave With The Group
When you are out on a date, never leave your group and go with someone you meet. This is something that a lot of people ignore when they are out. They go out with friends and meet someone they like. They start talking and, before you know it, they decide to leave with the person they just met. This is, to say the least, stupid. If you are a man or a woman - it is just stupid. Do you know how many people have died doing this? If you go with a group, don't leave your group. There is nothing that you are going to talk about after you leave that can't wait. Many people leave places like clubs with people they don't even know. They don't know their first name, middle name, last name, where they live, what they like or anything else. Think about it. If someone you didn't know walked up to your car and asked you for a ride, would you give them a ride? Of course not! So why would you leave with someone that you don't know just because you exchanged a few words? It makes absolutely no sense.

If You Are Meeting Up Somewhere, Make Sure You Date In A Public Place
When you are meeting someone for a date, a public place can provide a safe venue for you to have a date. An open restaurant can offer you a very safe place for a date. When looking for a place, you want to select a place where there are people around, a place where people can see you and a place where you can have fun and relax.

Take Pepper Spray With You On Your Date
There are a lot of nice discreet bottles of pepper spray that you can easily take with you on a date. This may seem a little extreme, but, there is nothing like having it if you should ever need it. Besides being able to possibly stop a crazy person. So you can possibly protect yourself from crazy people .

Make Sure You Plan For The Unexpected While On Your Date
When you are on a date, there will be times when things happen. Make sure that you plan for the unexpected. For instance, Always carry enough money to cover yourself in the event of an emergency. You never know what may happen and both men and women need to be prepared.

If You Can, Schedule Your Date During The Day
If you can, schedule your date for an afternoon or during the day. Although dates at night can be romantic, your first few dates should be about getting to know the person you are dating and staying safe. Keep yourself safe. When you meet during the day, you can really take your time and get to know your date without the pressure of feeling like you have to think about where the date is going to end at night.

Make Sure You Have A Cell Phone With You And Make Sure Your Phone Is Charged
Nothing is worse than having an emergency and not having a cell phone or any phone to use to call for help. Having a cell phone in today's society is a necessity. It is not an extravagance. Get the cheapest plan you can find or a pay as you go plan if you don't have a lot of money, but, make sure you get yourself a phone. If you break down in your vehicle, get put out of someones car, need to be rescued, need to be helped or need to call anyone in an emergency situation, a cell phone can save your life. Make sure you have a phone when you go on a date.

Trust Your Instincts Or Trust the Instincts Of People You Know And Trust
If something doesn't seem right with a person who may be trying to pick you up, make sure that you trust your instincts. What happens if you don't have good instincts? If you can't trust yourself, then trust the instincts of someone you trust. If all of your friends tell you that something is wrong with someone you met then take a break and see if what your friends are saying have merit. I'm not saying that you shouldn't date someone because your friends don't have a good feeling about the person, but, sometimes other people can see things that you may not see.

How to loose a guy in 5 easy steps



  1. Tell The Guy That You Love Him Somewhere Between 1st And 3rd Day
    Most guys have a problem dealing with complex emotions too soon. They start feeling rushed and pressured. There are some that will say they love you right back impulsively, but the majority of guys take this as a sign that you are becoming too clingy too fast.
  2. Introduce Him To Your Family On the First Date
    Guys hate to feel like they are being pushed into something. If they are seriously looking for a relationship first, they want to get to know you before they start meeting members of your family. When you do this, it seems like you are trying to force them into something
  3. Calling Him Incessantly After Your First Date
    If you call a person once and leave them a message and then you call again and leave them a message ,Don't wait for him to call you. Calling incessantly is not only annoying, it makes you look incredibly desperate and slightly crazy. It shows you must have nothing to do if all you are doing is spending your time calling him minute after minute.
  4. Showing Up At His Home Unannounced & Without An Invitation
    Most men hate to feel like you are invading their space. Showing up at a person's home without calling is not only rude, it is an invasion.
  5. Constantly Criticizing Him
    Do constantly criticize the guy you are dating. Being overly vocal in your criticism makes a guy feel like he isn't a man. It diminishes him internally. bringing up different issues at every times when you are together is annoying and condescending - even if you are correct.
 

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