Metroholica

Here are some tips and behaviors that portray interest in sex vs. relationship during the first couple of dates or early on in the relationship:

1. When a guy is interested in the details and stories of your sexual history on the first and second dates - he is interested in sex...

2. Your date is commenting obsessively on body parts, yours and other women - he is not into relationship - he is into sex.

3. If /when he tells you details of his own sexual history, too soon into the 'relationship', even under the guise of confiding, he is interested in sex.

4. Consider his ability to maintain eye contact with you. If he is very shy and cannot maintain eye contact, he'll look down at his shoes or at the floor. However, if/when he speaks with you and keeps focusing on your breasts and following your breasts with his eyes, even as you move around - it is a red flag: he is not shy and he is not interested in really getting to know you…

5. If there is spontaneous touching, which you feel is inappropriate – it probably is.

6. Not all relationships start like the examples above. Most dating relationships begin with interests to see and get to know each other. For the women who got hurt in relationships that turned to be sexual encounters only, being strategic and mindful is a way to continue to date… carefully.