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SLANG: Common slang terms for anal sex include back-door sex, fudge-packing, anal play, rear entry and doggy-style (but doggy-style can also mean penis-in-vagina intercourse from behind). Rimming is a slang term

WHO DOES IT: Both women and men can enjoy giving or receiving anal sex, and both women and men can have orgasms from anal sex. Likewise, people of any sexual orientation may enjoy anal sex. Enjoying anal sex doesn't mean a person is gay or straight.

PROSTATE GLAND: Boys have something called the prostate gland, which can be stimulated through anal sex. Girls do not have prostate glands, but their rectal area (around the anus) is still sensitive.

SODOMY: You may have heard anal sex referred to as "sodomy" or you may have heard the word "sodomize" to describe the act of anal intercourse. Actually, "sodomy" is primarily a legal and religious term that can mean anal sex, oral sex, masturbation and even rape (which is not sex at all, but is an act of violence against a person). Sometimes "sodomy" is used to mean any kind of gay sex. When people use the word "sodomy" they generally are trying to regulate a sexual practice.

VIRGINITY: Anal sex, like any kind of sex, is something you should only do if you are sure you want to. Some people want to remain virgins and think of anal sex as different than penis-in-vagina sex. Depending on what virginity means to you, you could have anal sex and still be a virgin. The thing to remember about anal sex (or any other kind of sex) is that it's your choice and you don't have to do anything you don't want to do or even anything you're not sure about.

DOES IT HURT: Like other kinds of penetrative sex, anal sex can be painful if your body is not ready for it. As always, it is crucial to go slowly, listen to your body and communicate with your partner. Using lots of water-based lubrication (more on that later) can help reduce any discomfort.

RISKS: You can't get pregnant from unprotected anal sex unless semen gets into the vagina, but it's still a Really Bad Idea. Here's why:

Unprotected anal sex (with a penis) is a high risk for sexually transmitted diseases like HIV, herpes, warts (HPV), hepatitis B, gonorrhea and syphilis. Why is unprotected anal sex such a high risk? Because the tissue inside your anus is very delicate and tender, and tiny tears or scrapes can happen without you even noticing. Then if your partner cums inside you or has genital warts or herpes, it is very easily transmitted.

SAFER SEX: The only safe way to put a penis into an anus is if there is a condom on the penis. Water-based lubrication is available at many regular drugstores and will not diminish the condom's effectiveness. Oil-based lubricants like lotion or Crisco can render a condom useless.

PRECAUTIONS: You shouldn't put anything that's been in your butt inside your vagina. Transferring rectal bacteria into the vagina can equal yeast infections or urinary tract infections. Not fun! Use a new condom or latex glove when you switch from the front to the back (or vice versa).

Research the Position

One of your main goals when writing your cover letter will be to convince the prospective employer that you know what they need in their hiring position - and that you're the person to give them just that. To get this done, you'll need to gain some perspective on what the job entails.

A good way to get started is by researching the responsibilities assumed in that position. You can learn specific duties by reviewing the job posting, and even contacting Human Resources, for additional information. Also, you can visit career websites that give details of various job descriptions. Afterward, you can try to determine how your previous experiences will enhance the position. By adding this element to your cover letter, you can "wow" the employer with your expertise and passion for helping their company grow.

Research the Company

Another great way to develop your cover letter is to gather specific details about the company. It isn't a good idea to treat all companies the same, as each has its own culture and mission. This means you'll want to learn more about the company's specific culture and goals by conducting a little research.

What kind of research? Well, for starters you can search their website for information on their business, strategy, products, services, and even employee activities. This will help you better understand the company's profile. And if you need more, you can call Human Resources to request information pieces that can help you gather additional background information. Between these resources, you should have useful information that can help you develop a sense of how your presence will enhance the company's mission and goals.

Research Yourself

After you've researched the position and company it is time to get honest with yourself. Are you applying for the job because you want money or status? Or because you really want to learn, grow, and enhance the company's mission? It's a really good idea to sit down and contemplate these ideas because they will not only help you determine whether you're moving in the right direction career-wise, they will also help you write an honest cover letter.

Writing a cover letter is not as difficult as you think, especially when you take time to conduct research on the position, company and yourself. So take this opportunity to fine-tune your career motivations while at the same time creating a cover letter that just might help you land your ideal job.