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When it's over, it's over. Pack up your mind and move on. You can't move forward if you are hung up on the past. When it's time to end things, be mature enough to say goodbye without going crazy. In the long run you will be happy that you have moved on.

 

• 1 - Continually Calling The Person You Just Broke Up With
  If they wanted to talk to you, they wouldn't have broken up with you. Stop being insane. Don't call them unless there is something that you have to say which directly concerns them and is a pressing issue that has to be handled. For instance, if they have things at your place and you want to know what to do with those things you should call once. If they don't respond, you can send them a certified letter. If they don't respond to that, then throw the stuff away. Don't keep calling. It makes you look desperate and it just reinforces why they broke up with you in their minds. Often people are on the fence right after they break up with someone. They are wondering if they did the right thing. Crazy behavior from you helps them realize that they did do the right thing.
• 2 - Continually Texting/Emailing The Person You Just Broke Up with
  When someone breaks up with us it's often hard to resist sending them little messages in the hopes that they will respond and help give us closure. Don't do it! It's not worth it for a few reasons. First, stalking and harassing people can lead to criminal prosecution. It is a crime. Texting and emailing provides a paper trail right back to you. Remember that text messages are stored. If the person you are texting decides to have you prosecuted for harassment, text messages can be tracked right back to you. Emails have a point of origin and an endpoint. That origin can often be tracked right back to you too. Don't go down this road. The second thing you need to remember is that the person just doesn't want to hear from you. They are done with wanting to hear what you have to say

• 3 - Contacting & Involving Your Ex's Family
  For some reason there are a lot of people out there who think that telling the family of someone they were dating about the breakup will cause that person to come back. This often has the absolute opposite effect. It doesn't matter what his or her family says to you, they are still the family of your ex. You look like an absolute fool when you do this. Often the family members you contact will talk to you to calm you down and then talk about you afterward. They are not on your side and they are not your friends. If you need to talk to someone in a family, talk to your own. Leave your ex alone and leave their family alone. Not only does this make you look crazy, it also leaves a lot of witnesses around should your ex decide to go to authorities and say that you are stalking them and harassing them. If you need to call someone, call your own friends and family. That's your best bet.

• 4 - Constantly Contacting Your Ex to Get Back Every Gift You've Purchased For Them
  Grow up! If you gave a gift to someone, it belongs to them. There is nothing you can do. Don't be immature and childish. Move on with your life.

• 5 - Telling People At Your Ex's Job About What Happened In Your Relationship
  Trying to spread bad blood at your ex's job is very immature. This is harassment. Often when we hurt we want to make others hurt. You have to get past this. Personal issues should not be bought into the workplace. You have to be mature to understand this. If you work with your ex and people ask you what happened, tell them that this isn't really the place to discuss it. Leave it at that. Don't show immaturity by telling people at the person's job what happened just because you are hurt. Deal with your hurt in another way.

• 6 - Refusing To Pay For Final Expenses For Bills You Made With Or For Your Ex
  Just because your relationship ended doesn't mean that you don't have to pay for some things you were supposed to pay for. If you were living together and there are bills that you were supposed to pay for, just pay them! Take care all of that business and move on. If you left an apartment you shared and there are payments outstanding, then make arrangements to pay off that debt. Don't be a jerk and leave your ex with bills that you agreed to pay or were paying. You may find yourself in small claims court if you don't pay.

• 7 - Flaunting Your New Love Interest Around Your Ex If You Just Broke Up
  Doing this shows that there is a level of sensitivity missing inside of you. If you just broke up with someone, think about their feelings at least a little. Don't try to rub the fact that you have moved on in their face. It is unnecessary and childish. If you have moved on, then go and leave your ex in peace.

• 8 - Not Telling Your Ex You Are Breaking Up With Them And Just Leaving Them Instead
  This is a very cowardly move unless your ex is violent. If they are, then moving on without communicating is probably the best thing. If they aren't violent, then you need to own up to the fact that you are leaving and say why you are leaving. Be honest and communicate your intent to end the relationship. If you were woman or man enough to get into the relationship, then be woman or man enough to communicate your desire to end it.

• 9 - Draining Joint Bank Accounts You Had With Your Ex
  This is a great way to start problems with your ex. You are going to end up in court and you are going to have to return the money that your ex can clearly show is their money. Don't be immature. Leave your ex with the money that belongs to them and take only your money. You should sit down with your ex and come to an agreement before you take anything. If your ex won't talk to you, then take what you know to be yours and move on.

• 10 - Following Your Ex
  It is illegal and it's just plain wrong. If you feel the need to follow your ex, just know that you are asking for trouble. You may be feeling like you are losing control and out of control. Talk to someone and get your frustrations off your chest. If you don't talk to someone about your issues, you may end up in jail. Face your problems, talk to someone and leave your ex alone.

• 11 - Trying To Stop Your Ex's New Love Interest From Hanging Around Places You Both Go
  Your issue is not with your ex's new love interest. It is with your ex. The person your ex is now dating has nothing to do with you directly. They are in your ex's life because your ex wants them there. Since this is true, you have no reason to try to prevent that person from being around. This means that you should leave them alone if you see them at a party, or at the gym or at a restaurant that you used to go to with your ex. Your relationship, as painful to face as it may be, is history. Move on and let it go. Your ex's new love interest doesn't deserve one second of anger from you. Your ex is the one that moved on. Let it go.

1. Tell The Guy That You Love Him Somewhere Between 1st And 3rd Day
   Most guys have a problem dealing with complex emotions too soon. They start feeling rushed and pressured. There are some that will say they love you right back impulsively, but the majority of guys take this as a sign that you are becoming too clingy too fast.
2. Introduce Him To Your Family On the First Date
   Guys hate to feel like they are being pushed into something. If they are seriously looking for a relationship first, they want to get to know you before they start meeting members of your family. When you do this, it seems like you are trying to force them into something
3. Calling Him Incessantly After Your First Date
   If you call a person once and leave them a message and then you call again and leave them a message ,Don't wait for him to call you. Calling incessantly is not only annoying, it makes you look incredibly desperate and slightly crazy. It shows you must have nothing to do if all you are doing is spending your time calling him minute after minute.
4. Showing Up At His Home Unannounced & Without An Invitation
   Most men hate to feel like you are invading their space. Showing up at a person's home without calling is not only rude, it is an invasion.
5. Constantly Criticizing Him
   Do constantly criticize the guy you are dating. Being overly vocal in your criticism makes a guy feel like he isn't a man. It diminishes him internally. bringing up different issues at every times when you are together is annoying and condescending - even if you are correct.

1. Yes, he falls in lust 10 times a day--but it doesn't mean he wants to leave you.

2. He actually does play sports to get away from you.

3. Every year he loves you more.

4. Earning money makes him feel important.

5. Though he often protests, he actually enjoys fixing things around the house.

6. He likes it when you mother him, but he's terrified that you'll become your mother.

7. Give him an inch and he'll give you a lifetime. Translation: Let him be a dumb guy and play poker with his buddies or go on vacation alone, and he'll love you forever for that.

8. He really doesn't understand what you're talking about when you discuss "issues" in your relationship. It makes no sense at all to him--even though he will nod in agreement and apparent understanding.

9. He is terrified when you drive.

10. He'll always wish he was 25 again.

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Keep a track. It's important to keep track of everyone you contact. Save all the business cards you receive during your networking activities and make cards for prospective contacts. Mark down the date of each interaction with each person—meetings, phone calls, and résumé mailings. Record who refers you to whom and how you followed up. Buy Palm Pilot. An inexpensive notebook, address book, or box of index cards ,Regularly flip through these contact cards or notebook pages to make sure no contact falls through the cracks.

Start Close to Home. The question is: Who do you know? And the answer: More people than you think. And those people know countless others. So get the word out—seize every opportunity to publicize your job search. Shout it from the rooftops! Begin asking for assistance with the right attitude. You are in business to get a job.. Don't leave out your classmates, former classmates, school alumni, teachers, professors, coaches, and anyone who was ever on your team or in your class. Co-workers, former co-workers, bosses, friends' bosses count, too. Be specific: let them know the type of position you're looking for.

Be a good listener. Even if you're not great at small talk, it's easy to be a good listener. Everyone loves to talk about himself or herself, and other people's experiences are a great way to learn about a career or a company, as well as potential job openings. Just ask a few key questions: "What do you do?" "Where are you working?" "How'd you get started?" Then sit back and soak up the information. A random encounter at a coffee shop or on a subway may spark a new job or industry idea in your head.

Find a reason to call. Find articles or news programs that you might recommend to your key contacts. "I saw this article and thought of you…" shows you are up on your current events and that your professional life is top-of-mind. This tactic is sure to impress! If you can't come up with something quite as clever, invite your contact for afternoon tea or an evening cocktail at the newest spot in town. It's less expensive than a whole meal, and that drink could lead to great connections. Instead of asking for a job, start by offering your contact the opportunity to share their career advice and individual stories.

Use your alumni association. College alumni are an often-untapped resource, which is a shame since they can be some of your best connections for career networking. Aside from maintaining a vast network of contacts, many of whom are ready to help fellow graduates, career service offices also offer a range of services. These include résumé critiques, career assessment instruments, seminars, career days, employer information sessions, alumni networking clubs, and access to online job listings. Most schools around the country provide reciprocity for their alumni at other schools. If you attended a small college and you’ve found that none of the alumni connections are relevant, ask your alma mater to write a letter on your behalf seeking services at other career centers around the country. Such arrangements allow you to tap into that network and make use of their resources. Similarly, when approaching alumni for assistance with your search, be prepared to share the latest campus news and excitement. This often provokes a sense of nostalgia and triggers memories from their time on campus. That connection can strengthen their desire to assist your efforts. It is also an opportunity for them to learn what kind of career opportunities new graduates are currently pursuing.

Do Your Homework. Before getting in touch with your new contact or alumnus, research his or her company. Familiarize yourself with the organization’s structure, products and services, and competitors, as well as how this person’s job fits into the organization. Go beyond reading the website. Read trade journals and other industry magazines.

Prepare for an Informational Interview. You’ve convinced someone to give you their valuable time. Don’t squander it. Be prepared, professional, polite, and to the point. Create a list of questions to ask based on your individual goals and the knowledge you have gained through your research.

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Dress To Impress

Do think about your outfit. Even if he doesn't know his Prada from his Primark, what you wear will make an impression, if only a sub-conscious one. Don't try to be too sexy by wearing low-cut tops or short skirts; at this early stage, he's more likely to be turned on by what he can't see than what he can. Opt for something that's neat but not too smart.

No Place For Exes

Don't talk about exes. It seems so obvious but this is a trap many first daters find themselves falling into. If you spend the entire evening recalling the details of your past relationships or, worse, trying to find out the details of his, he's unlikely to call you again. Save this discussion until you know each other a little better.

Alcohol Alert

Don't get drunk. Everyone knows that first dates are nerve-wracking experiences but downing a bottle of wine before the starters have come is going to impair your judgment and make you say or do things you don't want to. Stick to a few glasses and drink lots of water.

Common Ground

Do find out what you have in common. Do you both like a particular film or have you both been on holiday to the same place? Keep topics general and, if you get on, you should find the conversation runs smoothly. Just be yourself and don't lie to impress him.

Positive Attitude

Do be positive - there are few things more attractive to a man. Don't dwell on your faults but tell him about the things you enjoy and have achieved. If you like something he's wearing or what he's said, don't be afraid to complement him. Your upbeat attitude is bound to win him over!

Listen Carefully

Do listen. It's easy when you're nervous to find yourself chattering on, but do make the effort to listen to what he has to say. If you don't, he might think that you're only interested in yourself.

Get Some Perspective
Don't be upset if he doesn't call you again. You have to put a first date in perspective – it's a chance to meet to see if something more could happen. If nothing does, don't think there's something wrong with you; some people just don't click. Get out there and find someone else.